Would've, could've, should've. All past
tense. All unchangeable. Wasted time on regrets. Self-flogging,
berating, belittling oneself on what one could've, should've would've
done if ____, fill in the blank. If the assessment leads to an
improvement in behavior, that is a good thing. If it leads to a
perpetual, condemning black cloud overhead, it has caused paralysis.
What if, instead of condemnation, one declared, “ I have done what
I could with what I had/knew/believed at the time”? What if you
forgave yourself as you would forgive a small child who was just
learning? Aren't we all still just learning? Always learning? Forever
learning?
