Would've, could've, should've. All past tense. All unchangeable. Wasted time on regrets. Self-flogging, berating, belittling oneself on what one could've, should've would've done if ____, fill in the blank. If the assessment leads to an improvement in behavior, that is a good thing. If it leads to a perpetual, condemning black cloud overhead, it has caused paralysis. What if, instead of condemnation, one declared, “ I have done what I could with what I had/knew/believed at the time”? What if you forgave yourself as you would forgive a small child who was just learning? Aren't we all still just learning? Always learning? Forever learning?